Integrity Abuse: Why You Keep Harming Her and How to Stop

In this episode of the Joy Recovery Radio podcast, the host addresses the cycle of ongoing conflict and relational stagnation that often follows betrayal trauma and hidden sexual behavior. Reflecting on his own two-year period of repetitive conflict with his wife, Jacqueline, the host explains how attempting to manage his behavior or asking his partner to alter her emotional trauma response failed. Albert Ellis’s uses Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and introduces an adapted ABCDE Model to show that a betrayer's reactive conduct is driven by underlying false beliefs rather than the betrayed partner's emotional expression.