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An Online Resource Library on Gender-Based Violence.

Accountability work with men and boys

Moving beyond the system of harmful gender norms that limits us and promotes inequality is a great challenge for many anti-violence programs. While doing the work of engaging men and boys, it is important to challenge the dominant stories of masculinities in our lives. These resources discuss the concept of Bystander intervention, how to be an ally, and the idea of courageous conversations.

Bystander Intervention
Bystander Effect, which is also called Genovese syndrome, came after the murder of Kitty Genovese. Social psychologists Bibb Latané and John Darley popularized the concept of the bystander effect. Bystander effect occurs when the presence of others discourages an individual from intervening in an emergency situation such as bullying, assaults, or other crimes.

The 5 D's of Bystander Intervention

Bystanders can make a choice to actively and visibly take a stand against harassment when they see it. Hollaback's "5 D’s" (Direct, Distract, Delay, Delegate, Document) are different methods that bystanders can use to support someone who is being harassed, emphasize that harassment is not okay, and demonstrate to people in your life that they too have the power to make our communities and workplaces safer. 
Courageous Conversations
Courageous conversations are difficult conversations that we must have to move a new narrative around rape culture.

Feminist Prof. Loretta J. Ross Is Done With Cancel Culture

Creating conversations to bridge differences is hard enough, but online it can be even tougher — especially when a perceived misstep can see someone “called out” or “cancelled.” These two things can close down dialogue without addressing the problem, according to Loretta J. Ross. In this video, Professor Ross discusses her concerns with "cancel culture."
Allyship
An ally is any person that actively promotes and aspires to advance the culture of inclusion through intentional, positive and conscious efforts that benefit people as a whole.

The Guide to Allyship

The Guide to Allyship is an open source starter guide to help you become a more thoughtful and effective ally.

Working Definition of Allyship: The Handout

Allyship is an active, consistent, and arduous practice of unlearning and re-evaluating, in which a person holding systemic power seeks to end oppressions in solidarity with a group of people who are systemically disempowered. This handout from the Oregon Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence offers guidance on practicing allyship.

Racial Justice and Allyship Library Guide

This guide from Tulane University provides a starting point to learn about anti-oppression, inclusion, and privilege, as well as provide knowledge and resources on key social justice issues.

Getting Called Out: How to Apologize

In this video, Franchesca Ramsey offers insight into how aspiring allies should respond to being called out for upholding oppression, including offering a meaningful apology and changing their behavior.